Cavemen are the Best Facilitators

Real cavemen like me shouldn't lead anything. We struggle to put thoughts together quickly when confronted with issues we aren't prepared to take on.


We are facilitators. Give us a task, leaves us alone, and we'll get it done. Don't bother us while we are doing the work to accomplish the task given to us. We have a knack of getting confused to easily if we are distracted from doing our work.


Don't give us more than one task at a time. Our brains are working hard to complete the challenge in a sequential order. The worst thing you can do is change the task mid-stream. If you have ever seen a Caveman get stopped mid-stream while attempting to complete a task, you will witness anxiety, confusion, and probably some throwing of tools or whatever is in the hands of the Caveman at that particular time.


You are allowed to communicate with the Caveman to attempt to change his task, but only during a time period when the Caveman is not actually working on the task. You know this is true when you offer the Caveman a beer or a look down a Cavewoman's blouse. When stopped from actually working on the assigned task is when a Caveman is most amenable to having the task changed.


Never criticize a Caveman when he is working on the task you assigned him. Here is another instance when you may observe tools or other things the Caveman was using in his hands, fly through the air, often backed by barks of discontent, by the Caveman. You may certainly also hear words not normally spoken in a church environment.


So here are some really basic steps to have a task accomplished by your Caveman, to insure that the task is performed as well as the Caveman can do it.


Give a Caveman one, and only one task at a time.

Leave your Caveman alone to perform the task.

Never criticize your Caveman when he is actually working on the task you assigned him.

Never, and I mean NEVER offer alternative actions to the Caveman while he is working on the task you have assigned him.

Offer your Caveman breaks with food, drink, cleavage, or other delights that he can enjoy while on a break from working on the task you assigned him.

Don't get upset if your Caveman doesn't begin the task you have assigned him at the time you feel he should begin it. In fact, don't pressure him at all. Cavemen have an instinctive part of their brain that causes them to react negatively to any demands that they do not put on themselves.

Trying to get your Caveman to perform any task by your clock or time, is useless and will only cause more anxiety on both of your parts and the task might never get started by you Caveman.



Remember, Cavemen are simple, sequentially tasking individuals who prefer to be alone and not all that willing to do much in the way of communication, during the time they are performing work on the task.


Your reward for allowing your Caveman the latitude to perform work on the task you have assigned him will be peace in the cave and fewer frazzled feelings on everyone's part.